Potty Training: Girls vs. Boys

As Potty Training Awareness Month comes to an end, I want to share another post I wrote last year that was originally posted on Orlando Moms Blog.

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Potty training.

Just writing those words makes me want to pour a glass of wine. We’ve survived two potty training endeavors and learned many things from the two very different experiences. One thing I’ve learned is that what they say about potty training boys versus girls is not true.

When it came time to potty training our son, everyone said that boys are so much harder than girls and that we shouldn’t expect him to pick it up as quickly as our daughter did. After potty training a girl and a boy, I can honestly say I don’t find that statement to be true. Whatsoever. In certain aspects of potty training, each of them did something better than the other and there were several areas that differed between the two which would make anyone’s potty training experience different from someone else’s experience.

My daughter is older and was potty trained at 26 months old when my son was just two months old. She was cloth diapered until we started the 3 day potty training method and we were determined to get her out of diapers. She seemed so old at just 26 months, compared to her newborn brother, and we KNEW she was ready to be potty trained. She did a great job, but it took her eight days before she was able to poop in the potty. It was a very long eight days, but since she was our first born, we didn’t know any better. She was staying dry through the night without a diaper or a pull-up before she was able to go number two in the potty. After those eight days, potty training was over!

Fast forward two years when my son was 2 and a half years old. He had also been cloth diapered for two years, but he ended up wearing disposable diapers for about six months until we decided to finally give potty training a go. Based on what everyone had said, my expectations were not high and I was honestly dreading the whole experience. However, having an older sister, my son was far more interested in the potty well before we started potty training. He got used to sitting on the potty and even using the potty just by watching his sister. Since we had such a good experience with the 3 day potty training method, we knew we would use it again. My son picked it up in just over two days, both number one and number two. We were shocked and couldn’t believe that he caught on so quickly, especially after what we had heard about boys. He did a good job at first staying dry at night, but he is a much deeper sleeper than his sister, so it took him a bit longer at night to stay dry. We were changing sheets more frequently than we did with my daughter. He still hasn’t worn pull-ups, but night time was a longer road than the day time.

Overall, every child is different. There are many different factors that play into how well or how quickly a child picks up potty training. Young toddler, older toddler, first child, second child, boy, girl, it doesn’t matter. Every child is unique and every child will get potty trained at some point. I’ve learned many things from our two different potty training experiences, but most importantly, don’t compare your child to another child.

Potty Training in 3+ Days

June is Potty Training Awareness Month, so I thought I’d throw it back to a post I wrote about over three years ago that was originally posted on Orlando Moms Blog.

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I cannot begin to tell you how many times the words “pee pee” and “poopy” have come out of my mouth in the last two months. They are now common words in our vocabulary and here’s how we got there.

We were anticipating holiday break from school for a number of reasons. Obviously, to celebrate the holidays and spend time with family, but also because of this looming reality that it was time to begin potty training our 26 month old.

My husband and I were more than ready, having just had our second child two months prior. We were OVER the double diaper duty. It was time. We decided to try the 3 Day Potty Training method after several recommendations from others.

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Here are a few things I learned during this process (ok, more than a few) and I hope you can use one (or all) of them when it comes time for you to potty train your little one:

  1. Buy the flushable wipes. These would have come in handy with all of the poopy accidents we had. We use them now and they are so much better than the dry toilet paper on their little bums.
  2. Get in the mindset of two steps forward, one step back. Potty training is a process, and as long as you’re moving forward, keep going! Celebrate the victories, big or small, and brush off the accidents. Just keep moving forward.
  3. Stay positive. This is probably a no-brainer, but believe me, it is so incredibly hard, yet so incredibly important. Take a step back, a breather, have a drink, do whatever you need to do, but stay positive!
  4. Listen to the poop song. This was something else I had read about online — and my daughter loved it! We frequently did a potty dance when she was done.
  5. Make the incentives visible. For each pee pee in the potty, my daughter got a “special treat” — an M&M. The M&Ms were in a dish on the counter, so she knew what she was getting. Each day we talked about getting a lollipop (or “pollipop” to her) if she poopied in the potty. But it wasn’t until she was doing the “I gotta go” dance on day eight when I rushed and grabbed a handful of Dum Dums from the drawer. I asked if she wanted a lollipop and she rushed straight to the potty to do her business. By golly, as soon as she saw the reward, she wanted it. Now, if only we would have started that on day one!
  6. Get a travel potty seat. This may have been more for me. I am now infinitely more aware of how disgusting public restrooms are. Having the folding travel seat helps me feel a little bit better about having to go into every public restroom we come across in the city.
  7. It may not happen in three days. I was so discouraged by the end of day three when we still had not had a successful poopy in the potty. I took “3 day” too literally. She picked up the peeing very quickly, but we could not get over the fear of pooping in the potty. Fast forward five more days and we made it! Day eight was the first day I felt she “got it” — and we were completely accident free! Looking back, the fact that it only took us eight days to potty train is pretty amazing, but it was very hard to see while we were in the moment.
  8. Give the night-time a try. If you’re considering doing “3 Day Potty Training” (or 3+ days as I mentioned above), then you should consider going all in. We got a lot of funny looks when we said we were going to potty train day and night at the same time. Ironically enough, the night time clicked faster than the pooping did. I was just as shocked as you probably are reading this. If the night-time doesn’t work, no harm in trying — you probably just did a few extra loads of laundry more than you normally would have.
  9. Every child is different. I know, I know, this is obvious, but we moms know how easy it is to get trapped in the world of comparing our child to someone else’s. We’ve all done it. Just try to make a conscious effort not to do it when it comes to potty training.

While I would consider our potty training experience a success, I will tell you it was not easy, nor fun. It’s safe to say that it was toughest parenting hurdle we’ve had to jump to date. But it was so worth it!

So tell me, what are your successes and challenges when it comes to the “pee pee” and the “poopy”?

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my weekend in photos

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our little climber was standing on a chair until his face met the rug. oy.

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friday night we had so much fun celebrating lindsey’s birthday!

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an early 8 miles with the girls on saturday.

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post-nap snuggles, just because.

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park time on saturday!

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post-church park time on sunday.

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the kids were off on monday so they had a super fun, action-packed day with daddy.

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fun at the science center!

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they had 4 rivers for lunch, then the best donuts in central florida from donut king!

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we had a good weekend. kenley came down with strep, but recovered very quickly. greg and the kids had a three day weekend!

how was your weekend?

my weekend in photos

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the friday night family movie was finding dory!

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the girls.

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i was forced to take the week off from running thanks to this little thing called bronchitis, so i was happy to go to the y on saturday morning. it was a struggle though.

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we celebrated caelyn’s birthday on saturday with mini bowling. kenley said they were the smallest bowling balls she’s ever seen!

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little brothers unite.

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after the party, we saw the lego batman movie! we all gave it two thumbs up. it was super cute.

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we stopped by a new park on the way home…and then again on sunday!

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twins!

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he made a foot rest in the cart so he could relax while we shopped at sam’s club. he was in rare form today.

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we had a great weekend and knocked out our second birthday party of the month.

how was your weekend?

Friday I’m in Love

Happy Friday! It’s February and love is in the air. Let’s get to what I’m loving this week.

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The kids had themed dress-up days at school this week for spirit week. We all loved it! I was always totally into spirit days growing up, but I have to say it’s just as fun dressing the kids up. This week they had team spirit day, tacky tourist day, Marvel vs. DC day, career day, and pajama day. In all of my years of spirit days, I had never done tacky tourist day and it was my favorite day this week. Greg made them both a sweet camera which they both carried with them all day. I posted the rest of their outfits on Instagram, so you can check them out.

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Sunday was the Superbowl and while I have no interest in talking about the actual game, I will talk about the halftime show. Lady Gaga was on point. If you haven’t seen her performance, you can watch it all here. I am also stoked that she announced her tour dates the following day AND is performing along side Metallica on Sunday at the Grammy’s. That’s a match made in heaven if you ask me (and Greg).

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Greg has really gotten into the show Hunted, therefore, I have also gotten into it. It’s really interesting and I find myself learning something new each episode.

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Podcast update: the kids have been loving this Disney Story Central podcast I found from Denaye at Simple Families. The episodes are short so they are perfect for the ride to school in the morning. I am really into podcasts right now, so share your favorites with me! I recently cancelled my Sirius/XM subscription in my car because between podcasts and Spotify, I didn’t feel like I was listening to it enough to justify the price.

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my weekend in photos

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easy, breezy friday morning run with the girls.

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saturday morning play time.

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we celebrated kyler’s fifth birthday with bowling and pizza!

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the kids had a great time bowling!

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heather and nathan invited us to the chef’s gala at epcot on saturday night. we had such a great time getting dressed up and getting out of the house. i wore the kendra jumpsuit by diane von furstenberg compliments of rent the runway. based on the name alone, i couldn’t pass it up. i loved it and it fit so well.

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enjoying all the food and all the drinks.

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my favorite dish of the night.

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chef mickey made an appearance!

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kenley helped greg make appetizers for the super bowl while i did some meal prep for the week. it was very serious business.

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play time at the park. crosby loving on baby lincoln. he’s obsessed!

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we had a great weekend but it went by way too fast, how was yours?

Friday I’m in Love

Happy Friday! It’s hard to believe it’s already the last Friday of January. I’ve got a lot to love this week, so let’s get started.

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Kenley has continued rock star status this week on her two wheeler! After bath and pjs this week, they insisted on a ride around the block.

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Our new recipe for the week was buffalo chicken spaghetti squash and it was a huge hit! It was our first time cooking or eating spaghetti squash and we were really impressed. I modified the recipe a little bit and cooked the buffalo chicken in the crock-pot during the day. We also cooked the spaghetti squash in the Instant Pot, which was super quick. I made way too much, so I used the leftovers with pizza chicken later in the week. It’s amazing to see the squash string right out like spaghetti.

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We are so excited that good TV is back! Suits started back up this week and we are loving Timeless. We still have to catch up on This is Us this weekend. Too much TV, not enough time!

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The kids celebrated their 100th day of school on Wednesday by dressing up like they were 100 years old. They loved it and thought it was hilarious to pretend to be an “old lady” and an “old man”.

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